The thing I now know about true love is that it doesn’t arrive to your door dressed the way that you were expecting. Actually, it arrives nearly naked.
It shows up looking a little lost, worried and worse for wear. It does just the thing that may stress you out most, frazzle you and have you feeling turned upside down. It lands on your lap when you are least expecting it. You may even resent it a bit for showing up.
However, things start to change once you have had a chance to calm down and make heads or tails out of your life again, you start to recognize some fundamental things about this new love that you didn’t have the foggiest about before. This happens over years, the slow digestion of inevitability.
It starts to occur to you that you’ve become fiercely protective of this love, you may even feel like you can’t live for too long without it. But this is when you also start to notice that something far more rich than you’ve ever experienced has started to develop. The childish jealousies and insecurities of young love don’t exist in the realm of partnership like this.
Trust remains unwavering and strong. The age-old desire to define a relationships worth by stereotypical means and roles is no longer on the agenda.Tolerance, faith, compassion, kindness and thankfulness become so bountiful inside you, you may not even recognize yourself after some time.
The river of this kind of love runs deeper than any I’ve seen in my life.
Today is the 40th birthday of a beautiful, sweet soul that I am blessed to be able to spend my days with. My deep-rooted desire to take care of him and our life is nearly bordering on insanity. My level of commitment to the success of who we are when together is mind-boggling.
I met this man 13 years ago and from that first moment I saw him at the front door while I descended the stairs, he never left my heart. Though time, distance and the regular grind of life kept us from ever being together, we were always friends and always cared about how the other was doing no matter where our life had taken us. Through marriages, children and divorces, we have been here in some way or another for each other. Nonjudgmental and safe.
Luck, timing and something VERY right in the universe finally brought the two of us together, forever. My mule headed hatred for the prairies softened once I came to realize what I could potentially be losing out on. I then became who I am today. A rescued human who’s heart had finally found it’s forever home.
I am writing this today to wish the most amazing partner, lover, friend and father the happiest of happy birthdays. Without you the stars would certainly not shine half as brightly for the world.
Thank you, my love, for trying so hard to feel what I am feeling even when it seems so foreign to you. Thank you for encouraging my lust for life and travel and all things naturally beautiful and delicious. Thank you for bagging peaks, casting rods and slaloming down the hills. Thank you for turning our beautiful house in the woods into a sacred family space full of love, laughter and the fur of many adored beasts, large and small. For becoming nearly Vegan and trying your best at Yoga, tights or no tights.
Thank you, for being an incredible force of nature, a true mans man and a leader in business. Thank you for taking care of our family, even when that means late nights and thinning hair. For being grown up enough to know that a disagreement or spat will never mean the end of us. That nothing (but that one thing) could. Thank you, for living in truth, the most sacred of all human abilities.
Thank you for your capacity to love, patience and sweet, sweet cuddles on mornings when we can sleep just a little later. Thank you for bringing into my life fierce passion, wildfire and a physical connection that I can’t for the life of me ever see an end to.
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. For choosing to love me every day, for choosing to create an amazing future loaded with adventure and exciting daydreams and for being the other half of my soul that has been missing for so very long.
As my parents have said, you’ve tamed this gypsy heart.
Happy happy happy birthday Papi, you will always be the one.